Many people believe that love and marriage should be easy and effortless. And while many couples have these types of experiences of love, there are times when you need to work harder in order to create and maintain a romantic love that will last a lifetime. Studies have shown that passionate and obsessive love fades after the beginning of a relationship, but a romantic love can stand the test of time only if both partners are willing to put effort into their marriage. Here is a list of 6 simple tricks to a long and happy marriage!
Be Nice and Considerate
If you want to live a happy married life, you should always be nice to your spouse. There are so many things you can do to be nicer to your spouse. For instance, start every day with a warm kiss or a hug. Make an effort to be affectionate in the morning and you will feel happier and more loving toward each other for the rest of the day.
The key to a healthy and successful marriage is to make your spouse feel like your equal. Take your spouse's feelings into account whenever you're making a decision and make sure that take the time to listen to your spouse and make him/her feel like you care. Try to be loving, respectful and understanding to your spouse.
Keep the Romance Alive
Married life does not equate to boring life. There are so many easy ways to keep the romance alive in your marriage. Remind your spouse that he/she is still worth the time and energy that you devoted at the beginning of your relationship. Even if you can't find time to set aside for a date night, with a little imagination you can have a romantic candle light dinner at home after you put the children to bed.
Have a Lot of Sex
More sex in a marriage doesn't necessarily equal happiness, but sex can certainly improve your relationship and your lives. Having sex on a daily basis provides the much-needed couple time, boosts mood, builds trust and it's a great way to connect with your spouse without speaking. Staying connected in marriage is important because it helps you communicate better and you might end up arguing less.
Say "Thank You" and "I Love You"
Don't forget to say "I love you" and "Thank you". A study has shown that people who felt appreciated by their partners had less resentment and more satisfaction with their relationships. Your spouse should know how you feel about him/her, so make an effort to tell how much you love him/her and express gratitude every day. Making the effort to say these two phrases can make a huge difference in your marriage.
Maintain Good Communication
If you want your marriage to be a long and happy one, good communication is key. You and your spouse should be able to talk about everything that's on your mind. According to experts, communication before the wedding is one of the best predictors of success in marriage. In order to have and maintain strong communication, you have to be aware of your spouse's thoughts and moods before you have a conversation. When arguing, try not to personally attack your spouse and don't say things in anger intentionally meaning to hurt him/her. If you end up saying something bad, make sure you apologize immediately.